Four Ps to Ditch your Fair–Weather Friends

Four Ps to Ditch your Fair–Weather Friends

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Let’s face it. Not everyone is a friend! This statement surely violates Christian norms but let’s be realistic. Not all has the bearing of a good friend, more specifically and ideally, an authentic friend.

While it is true that real friends aren’t part of the endangered species yet, we should realize by not sounding scornful that sorting friends is a big deal. Ditching the unreal (people) is therefore, a must!

On a very personal note, I pause to ponder on the cliché, I quote, “Prosperity makes Friends; adversity tries them.”

I have a lot of friends and I enjoy being with them. We have our own share of differences yet we have one thing in common – we love our friendship.

Circles of friends, I have plenty. Some are very casual, plain acquaintances as we always call them. Many are nice ones.

Good and better friends, they are more than a handful, and I always appreciate them and the joy they always bring me. Close and intimate friends – there are only a few of them! They are true friends and are very hard to find. Truly, rare as they are, finding them is a gold mine. No more argument on this.

But what about those who shammed an image of a friend just for egocentric intentions? Those who are only around during your ups? Or those who manifest their presence only to demand a favor? We all loathe this kind of people! Bloodsucker!

So how then do we test our ‘friends’? How do we bring out the ‘best’ and ‘worst’ in them? And finally how do we get rid of them just in case they failed us?

Hmm, I have four Ps for you:

1. PUT your friends to the test. It’s either you play the sucker or you’re on the provocative side, designing a plot that will unsheathe your friends real characteristics. Add some drama in your day-to-day relationship or your casual togetherness. Be a creative (but never be an offensive) leg-puller!

2. PLAY the spy – Be devious in your affairs. But be cautious not to cause too much trouble. Your role here is to uncover who’s being true or not among your friends. You are not supposed to intentionally inflict grudges in them for in the end you’ll end up the rogue. Just play it safe.

3. PITCH INTO their ploys – in case that their plots are way too obvious, be straightforward to overturn their backbiting. The more they know that you are not an easy victim the lesser they become aggressive in leeching up on you.

4. PUT UP your scarecrows. Chase your opportunistic friends away by setting up a character that is frightening yet not very dangerous. In one of the sms I received, it says – “Never design your character like that of a garden where anyone can walk into”. Instead create an aura of suspense where their deceiving friendship should come to wane.

Life is but short. Friends and friendship do add colors to our lives. So why bask on people who aren’t even real to you?

Treasure real friends and be thankful for them. They are our earthly angels. They deserve our unconditional love and respect. They are indeed great blessings!

Then, DITCH those fair-weather friends. Spare them in your friends’ list before it’s too late!

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PGT: Showcase of Filipinos’ artistic versatility

My personal favorite among the Pilipinas  Got Talent finalists is Maria Jeline Olive. I voted for her via sms for two main reasons: she is an Uragon, a true blooded Bicolana and she plays violin.

I always admire how my fellow Bicolanos etch their names in the stardom.

I love the sound of violin and how the fiddlers tickle the string. Violinists do look sophisticated especially when they are on orchestra. [I wish I could have quality time with my Papay (grandfather) so he could coach me playing the stuff.]

Anyway, here are some video clips about the PGT finalists. Like millions of Filipinos around the globe, I am so proud of them. They showcase the best of Filipino talents and artistry.

Note: I am posting the vid clips according to my preferences as to who should grab the title as first-ever ultimate winner in the talent search. I love all of their performances on Saturday, June 12, 2010.
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1. Jeline
– her talent is world-class! She plays 12 musical instruments (huh!). I agree with Ms. Kris Aquino that it took a lot of patience for a kid like her to master playing different kinds of musical instruments. Thanks to her very supportive parents.
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2. Jovit –
his singing is sensational. For his young age, he has a very powerful voice. I love his humility, too.
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3. Markki –
he’s a singing heartthrob, a talented hottie. I look forward to seeing him performing a ASAP XV.
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4. Keith Clark –
as Ms. Ai-ai, one of the judges says it, his ‘performance is electrifying.’ He’s one hot guitarist. He sings well, too.
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5. Baguio Metamorphosis –
– a mix of cultural and modern display of gracefulness and synchronicity makes this extraordinary dancing group a crowd stunner.
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6. Ingrid Payaket –
She’s a proud Igorot and I love how she presents herself. Her singing is soulful.
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7. Velasco Brothers –
this dancing bros glued my attention to the idiot box. They awe me a lot. Their choreography and dance style are just too admirably flawless.
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8. Luntayao Family –
I am amazed by this family. Their blending is lovely to my ears. And who could overlook Charl’s, (the youngest among the group) powerful voice as he does his cool gesture.
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9. Alakim –
I love magic tricks and am always amazed by magicians. It’s amazing to know that there are word-class Filipino magicians like him. He definitely mesmerize Araneta with his act on Saturday.
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10. Ruther –
a ventriloquist with an amazing sense of humor. He’s talent is indeed exceptional. I admire his talent especially when he used it to entertain typhoon victims (accd to him).
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11. Ezra Band –
Although I don’t have a strong liking towards bands, Ezra band interests me because of Norr the physically impaired piano virtuoso and Kaye whose appears very mysterious to me. Kaye performs enchantingly.
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12. Sherwin –

Another soulful singer. He’s sings from the heart. Personally, I don’t find his voice so unique. He sounds like Mr. Gary Valenciano.

Good luck to these world-class Filipino talents.

Pagpahumale kay Amigong Bari-Bari

☺Ugmahay ☻

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Sa may balkon, nagrarara an mag-aramigo. Kahampangan an pinasuhi na demonyo dangan an siningsing na pusit, magab-at an boses na nagtaram si Bari-Bari:

Bari-Bari:

“Me ultimo adios

Manga amigos y amigas

Aco ngunian saindo

Namamaaram na

Sa sacong paghale

An tugon co sana

Ining gown cong tinahi

Iyo saco an isangli

Dangan itong burac

Sa pamayuhan co ibugtak.”

—-

Maski sanay na, nangirhat si Bara-Bara, tuminuyok mun-a antes magtaram siya…

Bara-Bara:

“Ay ata baya pumundo ka

Dae aco namumuya

Hare na pagmuto-muto

O maski mamurungko

Total kadakol man diyan que lamugto!”

Dangan suminegunda ining si Bira-Bira na naging kasaro niya:

Bira-Bira:

“Aw con iyan an muya mo

Hala pagpatook na

Tutal aque cong hinablos mo

Ngonian duro-dacula na

Ayaw paghuna na sa paggurang mo siya maiba!”

Dae pa nahaloy cellphone niya buminodyong. Nagtatam si Beri-Beri saro sa manga padaba niya:

Beri-Beri:

“Ay basta sa pag-abot co, cumawara ka!

Sa lasngag na iyan laen ka caiba

Garo nakalingaw ka

Sa pamilyang ini abot ka sana

Hala, bag-ong estaran mo, hanapa na!”

Nangrilipot si Bari-Bari… Ngabil niya nagkimig-kimig. Muya niyang ngumoyngoy alagad tulos niyang pinugol. Naglag-ok que inumon pagkatapos ang pusit matulon. Sa saiyang pag-isip nin hararom, guiraray na buminalik manga agui-agui. Dae pa nanggad nalingawan sinabi ni Buro-Burong napupusoan:

Buro-Buro:

“Habo co naman, ata habo co na…

Manga pagpadaba mo, totoong nauuyunan co.

Alagad an kaogmahan mo

Dae co maitatao

Nakatadol na aco asin dae na maotro!”

Nagturo na kuta luhang pigsasagop can ining si Bura-Bura magtaram nin macosog:

Bura-Bura:

“Patal kang bualaw ka!

An utak mo sa kuko

Nata ka mapagadan

Con puede ka man lang mang-gadan?

Hala! Sige na… Tutal dae man an que maantosan!”

Dae pa nahahaloy, kinaagahan…

Bara-Bara:

“Amigo ming Bari-Bari

Ta daw saco dae ka nagmati?

Ining manga pasacit

Tulos man lang na mahahale!”

Bira-Bira:

“Aque tang papadacolaon

Solo co na bubuhayon

Hare nanggad aco pagbabasolon

Con makakua tulos panibag-ong agom…”

Beri-Beri:

“Panibag-ong harong naghahalat na

Duman ka na magtinir

Makibiyo sa tunay na kapamilya…

Mag-enot na… ta kami haloy pa.”

Buro-Buro:

“Kugos cang iba, dae ka mamumuya?

Laen lang aco an pwedeng makaiba

Dacol kami… Mas may urag ngani sinda!

Pasensiya na talaga…”

Bura-Bura:

“Guiraray, aco minataram:

Patal ka talaga!

Sabagay, sa kinadakol dakol na beses

Ngunyan makataram ka na: “Sa wakas, nakaantos na!”

(Preblogged for www.ugmahay.wordpress.com on April 11, 2009; 18:37

Published: April 12, 2009)

GUSNGAB NA SIKNIT NA TUMINULON QUE BANGAW*

I.

Solo:

May sarong gusngab na siknit na nakatulon que bangaw.

Chorus:

Aw iyo? Sisay ang nakatulon que bangaw?

Kaherak na babaying gusngab, tibaad siya matigbak!

II.

Solo:

May sarong gusngab na babaknet na nakatulon que damang

Padagos sa saiyang halunan, Nakatulon siya que damang

Chorus           :

Tinulon niya ang damang tanganing habluon ang bangaw.

Ay badaw! Sisay ang nakatulon que bangaw?

Ang  kaherak na babaying gusngab, tibaad siya matigbak!

III.

Solo:

May sarong gusngab na babaknet na nakatulon que kalabidong

Makangangalas, nakatulon siya que kalabidong

Chorus:

Tinulon niya ang kalabidong tanganing mautsan ang damang.

Tinulon niya ang damang tanganing habluon ang bangaw

Ay badaw! Sisay ang nakatulon que bangaw?

Ang  kaherak na babaying gusngab, tibaad siya matigbak!

IV.

Solo:

May sarong gusngab na babaknet na nakatulon que kasmag

Pwera karaw! Tinulon niya ang kasmag!

Chorus:

Tinulon niya ang kasmag tanganing sibaon ang kalabidong.

Tinulon niya ang kalabidong tanganing mautsan ang damang.

Tinulon niya ang damang tanganing habluon ang bangaw.

Ay badaw! Sisay ang nakatulon que bangaw?

Ang  kaherak na babaying gusngab, tibaad siya matigbak!

V.

Solo:

May sarong gusngab na babaknet na nakatulon que gadya

Bilog niyang hinalon ang gadya.

Chorus:

Tinulon niya ang gadya tanganing dulakon ang kasmag

Tinulon niya ang kasmag tanganing sibaon ang kalabidong.

Tinulon niya ang kalabidong tanganing mautsan ang damang.

Tinulon niya ang damang tanganing habluon ang bangaw.

Ay badaw! Sisay ang nakatulon que bangaw?

Ang  kaherak na babaying gusngab, tibaad siya matigbak!

VI.

Solo:

May sarong gusngab na babaknet na nakatulon que baka

Aw inda kung pinan-o, basta tinulon niya ang baka

Chorus:

Tinulon niya ang baka tanganing tigbakon ang gadya.

Tinulon niya ang gadya tanganing dulakon ang kasmag.

Tinulon niya ang kasmag tanganing sibaon ang kalabidong.

Tinulon niya ang kalabidong tanganing mautsan ang damang.

Tinulon niya ang damang tanganing habluon ang bangaw.

Ay badaw! Sisay ang nakatulon que bangaw?

Ang  kaherak na babaying gusngab, tibaad siya matigbak!

VII.

Solo:

May sarong gusngab na babaknet na nakatulon que kabayo

Chorus:

Aw natigbak siya, SYEMPRE!

* Sarong Bikolnong piyesa na nagtataong duon sa paggamit kan manga ulagsak na tataramon. Itrinansleyt ni Alfred H. Dedase para sa School of Living Traditions on Bicol Oral Traditions.

Iwi

Ayoko ng gulay!

Matin-is mong kurag-it

Dangan an siloping bitbit

Sa paros minaragitnit…

Con minsan nakapurongko

Naghahalat na may magtin-o

Sa paglakaw iguang magkiling bago magdiretso

Pauli sa harong na may pamilyang kumpleto…

Sumama ka na!”

Kantyaw kang iba

Habang nakabusi na minatuya-tuya

Ginumos na angog balos mo na sana

Minaduko, minapurot nin gapo

Sa kantyaw, naruruso man ang puso.

Ata kulapos mang gayo

Ang daghan nakamati man nin duso.

Tigilan n’yo ako!”

Dagit mong pakihuron

Dangan minangirit nin mahamison

Sa kamidbid na sa gilid nagmimiron…

Nag-aging kasuhapon lingaw

Maabotong aga dae nunca que linaw

Sa lipot nin bangue, bitoon tinatan-aw

Kugos ang sadiri naghahalat na maruaw.

______

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